Key Segments For A Happy Marriage (Do you have them?)

Key Segments For A Happy Marriage

Being happily married is something we all strive for and it takes a lot of work to keep things fresh.

Let’s break this down into segments.

1. Communication, this is crucial to any and most relationships especially a marriage. What I mean by communication is that you need to have a (good ear). Really listen to what your spouse or partner is trying to relay or say. Don’t be quick to judge, be open minded and things will flow better.

Even after being with a partner for years we still will learn new things about that person as time goes by.

Be patient and remember to take things slow when making a judgment against the other spouse or life partner. Which leads to my next segment.

2. Arguments, we all will have them. But when a dispute happens, don’t rush to blame. Step back for a while and give some thought to the situation. It is even wise to stay as calm as possible. You both wish to find a solution and if we try to see the others person’s point of view before jumping to our own viewpoint we might stop a heated debate before it has time to escalate into something neither of you will be happy about once time has passed and the smoke has cleared. And you probably have heard this a million times, but no matter what you are upset about, never ever go to bed without attempting to get past the madness. This is a no win situation for anyone and it only serves as a negative affect for marriages. Plus, we are not promised tomorrow so say sorry while you still can.

3. Giving of yourself, in most marriages that have lasted for decades the first thing I hear is that they have a 50/50 plan. Each partner gives evenly as possible so that each person feels secure, loved and appreciated. They each take time being in the limelight you might say. They each give some and take some at equal parts. Partners who have this type mindset for their spouse feels more secure in their relationship and have little regrets when it’s their time to give in. They have had ample time devoted to their needs and they feel fulfilled. Giving and getting is crucial and works well for both involved. Marriages that are one sided typically have problems, which can jeopardize a relationship.

4. Nice gestures, even when it’s not a special occasion goes a long ways whether you are male or female, each gender likes being pampered and feeling loved with a nice and unexpected gesture. To explain further nice gestures don’t have to be expensive, they can even be the simplest of things. A foot rub given to your wife, when you know she loves them and when you know she has had a hard day at work which required her standing on her feet all day. Or putting a sweet card in your husband’s briefcase, knowing he will be opening it first thing the next morning right before going into a really big and important meeting, and lastly sealing it with a big kiss, and using the lipstick color that just happens to be his favorite color on you. The little things that we do to show our appreciation can move mountains in a marriage and keep us in a state of bliss.

5. Being there, when things aren’t going so well in other areas of our lives, that’s when we need the support of our spouse the most. Just knowing your spouse has your back no matter what the situation is so connecting. In times of hardships, money situations, other family issues, sickness, whatever the case, for better or worse, till death do us part, that is what we all want in a life partner. We need to feel connected and know they have our back. If this is given to a spouse without limits it builds trust and unity.

6. Speak loving words, this is so important and should be done daily. Say I love you, and never feel you are telling each other too often. Saying those three words should never get old or mundane. Speak it when you awake and right before you go to sleep, or when you are just out for a walk. Say I love you when you are around others, don’t be ashamed to let others know you love your spouse to pieces. Other kind words to say that are just as fulfilling are things like, you complete me, the old saying spoken in The Famous Jerry McGuire Movie, how sweet to hear those words. Any spouse no matter which gender, male or female would love to hear those words.            

7. Last but not least, having a healthy sex life. Knowing what your partner needs to be fulfilled in a healthy but sensual way. Being able to talk to your partner about sexual concerns or desires. Being open to new things to keep your love life fresh and exciting. Taking time with each other to learn what makes each person happiest in those private times. This is where each partner learns to give and not just get. Be truthful to each other, be open and honest, be playful, and learn to have fun with your spouse.

What we put into a marriage is usually what we get out of a marriage. Be good to each other. Love goes a long ways...